The last time I heard words of appreciation for some menial task that I do every day, I’m pretty sure I just absorbed them as my due. Of course I should be appreciated, because I faithfully take care of this thing whether or not I am reminded and then thanked afterward. But I can’t begin to express the deterioration of my attitude behind completing these tasks when I DON’T hear those words, as much as that shames me to admit. I’ve certainly been known to do housework while muttering under my breath.


In our lives it’s altogether too easy to start taking for granted the things people do as part of their routine. Because it becomes just that- routine. It’s hard not to get lackadaisical in showing our appreciation for our spouse because of these routines, but it’s important to add gratitude to your daily routine. Why? Because when I feel appreciated, I’m likely to have good feelings about whatever it is, and that prompts an atmosphere of positivity. And let’s just face it: more gets done on a day when you feel good, right? Life just seems to flow more easily as you start recognizing and appreciating the good stuff!

It takes minimal effort just to say thank you and mean it. You don’t have to go the extra mile every time and show your thanks in grander ways, (although I’ll never turn down a back scratch are you kidding me?!) but the more you’re able to express thanks, the more it becomes habit.

The beauty of this is that our brains are wired to recognize patterns! This means that as you’re noticing the little things to be grateful for, it will become more natural and easier to expect to see other things to be happy and grateful for. You don’t have to take my word for it though; try this for a week and see what a difference it makes! You might even recognize that in return, your spouse notices and appreciates the things that you do.

Change is always going to start with yourself. A small attitude adjustment can have great impact on a relationship’s overall success and happiness!

Thanks for reading!